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Wolf Whistling

Now I sure this may rouse up some debate with the menz, but I often wonder if guys, especially the really gross ones, actually think giving sleazy eyes and making loud (usually inappropriate) comments at pretty girls is endearing?

Let me paint you a picture so that you understand where I am coming from. At lunch yesterday afternoon I was riding an escalator behind a pretty blonde girl. Down the bottom was a morbidly obese man who wore an old, faded sleeveless t-shirt that had sweat stains around his armpits and had man boobs like none I've ever seen before. He was a cretin, just a gross individual who clearly did not care about his appearance one little bit. This slug was staring at the hapless girl as she descended the escalator with no subtlety whatsoever. It was disconcerting enough for me and I wasn't even the one being stared at. If that wasn't bad enough, he then he turns and says to his rat-like mate, loud enough for all to hear "Aww nah she's way too young" and continued undressing her with his beady, sweaty little eyes.

What would he have said if she wasn't in fact abut 18 years old? If he's going to be that vile and make loud comments about being too young for him, how would he have acted if she's been his target age? I shudder to think! And why he HELL does he think it's OK to say that sort of thing? Apart from the fact he was a total beast of man, how does he expect to attract someone by shouting exactly what he feels at his object of desire? Even if he'd been a good-looking, well-dressed young man I'm sure he would have gotten the same sort of reaction (though the girl might have felt a little bit flattered as opposed to totally repulsed, I guess).

Now this guy clearly doesn't represent all men, but a lot of guys out there seem to think yelling dumb stuff at pretty girls as they pass (ie. the old walking-past-the-construction-site stereotype) is a clever thing to do and will actually end well for them. I get it every time I walk past the deadshits who sit around the bus stop where I live, they holler "Hey gorgeous lady, I like yer tatts" as though that's going to impress me and I'll give them my phone number or a sneaky BJ. I refuse to believe this has ever actually worked for them, that there is a woman desperate enough out there to find that appealing and reciprocate. We can't stop them from having a look, but don't we have some sort of right to walk down the street without having stupidity thrust upon us just because we're easy on the eye?

If you're one of those guys who thinks it's attractive to yell "compliments" at a pretty lady as she walks past, think again. There are very few women who like this sort of thing (you can tell who they are) so you have two options. the preferred one is to shut up and just appreciate what you see quietly. The second one, if you simply cannot keep your big yap closed, is to approach the girl and say something to her one-on-one, though you better make it good and not along the lines of "You have sweet tits" because you may very well get a slap or an angry "fuck off" in reply. If you do it right, you may be one of those lucky few who actually gets the girls phone number!

Personally, I spend a lot of time getting ready every day to look nice. Not necessarily for guys, it's mostly for myself as I feel good when I look good. I don't mind the occasional look from random blokes, because it makes me feel like my hard work was worth it, but I feel objectified when I get things yelled at me and so retaliate by yelling back how I feel (usually "Get a life, ugly"). I am inclined to think most women feel the same way, but obviously I could be wrong, so I'd love some feedback!

Guys: have you ever whistled at or yelled a comment out at a girl and had her reciprocate? What did you say and how did she respond?
Girls: do you like having guys wolf whistle and yell compliments at you? If so, why?

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Originally published at rubyvelour.com.

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Sometimes I get looks and whistles, but I never really got why O_o It's usually not when I wear something particularly risqué or something.

The one time some disgusting old guy in a car made lewd gestures at me from his window was waaaay over the top, though -_-

it depends on what is said. i don't mind woof whistle (although for me - few and far between) if its something positive and not smarmy i dont mind it.

I have never yelled anything out at a girl whom I didn't know, it's just... not me; if I was with a guy who did it, I'd probably lose all respect for them immediately.

I get yelled at all the time when I'm out walking, but for different reasons. I've had bottles (glass and plastic, full and empty) hurled at my head (some very near misses too, thank God for my good reflexes), I've had tubs of yoghurt flung at me, and illegible slurs yelled from cars speeding past too fast for me to usually make out a word of it. I always flip them off but they never stop. Never fully understood why they persist, I don't dress oddly, it must just be that I have long hair.

Once, the lights went red in front of someone who had just yelled "fag" at me as they drove past and he was forced to stop, so I decided to approach his car quickly. He ran the red light and sped through incoming traffic to get away from me. It was hilarity incarnate.

I'm guessing the people who yell at women are equally cowards.

I will admit that I've never even come close to behaving in this kind of way. I'm a relatively shy man when it comes to attractive people, so shy in fact that had it been me at the bottom of that escalator I would've taken one glimpse of the pretty girl and immediately paid attention to something else in a different direction, so she didn't think I was ogling. I don't know why I'm like this, I just always have been :)

I would assume that it's less because they actually are complimenting the girl than that they get a kick out of making someone else embarrassed or humiliated. It's a power trip that you can make someone feel awful or good with a single ill-considered shout.
I think as

danzaver mentioned, they're far more likely to be cowards when confronted because it's such an unexpected path for the object of their "affection" to take.

Reminds me of lyrics from one of my favourite songs:

The ghetto boys are catcalling me
As I pull my keys from my pocket.
I wonder if this method of courtship
Has ever been effective.
Has any girl in history said
'Sure, you seem so nice, let's get it on'?
Still, I always shock them when I answer,
'Hi, my name's Amanda'.

~Amanda Palmer - Ampersand

Girls: do you like having guys wolf whistle and yell compliments at you? If so, why?

hahaha, you must be kidding :D
guys like that make me wanna vomit, particularly the type that you just described :P

Horn-honking and wolf whistles I don't mind, unless I'm in a particularly dodgy area and feel vunerable. The most 'yelled compliment' (I suppose?) I get is "HEY BLONDIE" which hardly seems like anything so I don't pay any attention.

I don't think it's done as an expectation of being thanked for the compliment, moreso the same reason guys will pay out their female friends a bit 'too far' (I've seen it get to the point of tears many occasions) - it's not because they hate their female friends, its because their reaction is amusing to them.

It seems juvenile, but if I were a guy on a construction site and I got to break the boredom of laying bricks by wolf whistling a girl and her reaction being "Get lost" I would laugh. I'm sure the boys would too.

haha, I wrote a blog while I was living in Nice (France) on exactly this topic. Except it was more of a rant than anything else... the men there are so incredibly disgusting. I had more abuse in one weekend than I get in an entire year in the UK. Every time I left the house, SOMETHING happened to me, whether being followed, called names, and occasionally groped.

I'm not sure how to link (fairly new to LJ) but this is the site if anyone's interested (I haven't used MySpace in about a year):

http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendId=3770910&blogId=455120924

A list of what happened to me while I was there (taken from the blog):

- followed off the bus by a fat creepy man who tried to talk to me until I power-walked away
- had my front-bottom grabbed by a 9 year old (I'm really not joking)
- been followed home at night (numerous times)
- been followed to my friends' houses (numerous times)
- had abuse yelled at me by drunks who hang around the Palais de Justice fountain (around the corner from me; and unfortunately, I have to cross the square there for my nearest cashpoint - also numerous times)
- been genuinely propositioned ("how much for you?")
- been yelled at by teenage boys in cars
- had my way barricaded by drunks
- had my way barricaded by young men
- had my way barricaded by old men
- had abuse (whore, bitch, slut, etc) yelled at me for pushing these people out of my way
- had abuse (whore, bitch, slut, etc) yelled at me for refusing to give away a cigarette (asking a girl for one late at night is a kind of innuendo here)
- had abuse (whore, bitch, slut, etc) yelled at me for keeping my head down and ignoring creepy men calling me "Mademoiselle Blonde" (numerous times)
- had men stand in awkward places in shops so I have to slide past them closely to get out (numerous times)
- had guys on the street try to grab me
- had guys on the street succeed in grabbing me (the worst bit is, they think it's funny, they walk off and laugh and don't realise how dirty and disgusting it makes you feel)

... yeahhhh.

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