Accept this!

Tonight I read a few blogs by people I admire, dealing with the idea of not being accepted by friends, family, the general public etc. The letters on Doe Deere Blogazine really affected me because of how these poor girls feel inferior because they choose to dress differently to most other people. Their experiences, where they're publicly humiliated in front of their school, or have random strangers shout things and even have their own mum's not "getting it" devastates me. I've been quite different all of my life. In high school when all the girl were showing off their newly developed boobs (which I had since grade 5, so like, whatever) in tight tops, I favoured baggy band t-shirts and shorts with skate shoes. In Uni I liked to wear fitted t-shirts and baggy shorts, all of which matched in colour. More recently I am completely obsessed with pink and black and wear only the most over-the-top outfits I have, usually involving tutu's and other unusual accessories.

The thing is though, I've never experienced any sort of negative feedback for how I dress. Luckily for me, my mum encouraged dressing differently and now delights in the fact I wear eccentric outfits that almost always turns heads wherever I go. I've also grown up with friends who enjoyed different fashion styles to the norm, so I always had backup in one way or another. So to hear about people who probably don't dress anything near as over-the-top as I do who go through hell about what they choose to wear...well, it breaks my heart! I can't even imagine worrying about whether or not people will say nasty stuff to/about me by wearing one of my regular outfits out in public. I mean sure, some people might make nasty comments behind my back but I don't hear them and therefore they don't technically exist to me. I just don't know how I would react if ever someone made a nasty comment about my choice of clothing to my face or loud enough for me to hear them. Probably very badly, so I just hope I never have to go through something like that.

I've always been an advocate of being who you want to be, screw the consequences or the people who don't like it. But I guess when it comes to being harassed about it, particularly to the point where you worry about your own safety, then something's got to give. Depending on your situation you may need to make some compromises, particularly if you're young and live with your parents, which isn't ideal but for your own well-being you have to do whatever helps you get by. It may mean toning things down day-to-day and finding other outlets for your self-expression. If/when you're able to, move somewhere more open-minded! Being stuck somewhere that's filled with narrow-minded jerks will never work out for anyone a little bit different, so get the hell out! If it's someone like a family member or even your own friends who are giving you a hard time though, you have to be strong. Tell them that they can either suck it up and accept you for who you are or get lost. I am certain very few people are going to be shallow enough to disown a relative or a friend simple because of how they dress. Take a stand, be brave and be proud of who you are! This is your life and damn all who don't agree with your choices!

Now I think about it, this goes for anything really, not just irregular fashion choices. Be you gay, extremely tattooed, have an unusual haircut or a love of anything not-normal. Never take someone's lack of respect, intelligence or acceptance to heart. Be whoever the hell you want to be and be proud that you're a much better person because you don't give a fuck about what anyone thinks about you! Life is too short and being "normal" much too boring!

Originally published at rubyvelour.com.

Spending money (and being bored) on a Saturday

I'm home alone tonight and find myself watching old movies on TV. First it was Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, then Zoolander and now Dog Day Afternoon. I am pretty damn bored but I don't mind, I rarely get the chance to be bored and completely on my own so it's probably really good for me. I was going to go out, just for the hell of it, but I had a day of spending money today and really need to save my pennies for Tokyo.

Speaking of today, I got a new hair cut after almost five months (my hair grows so slowly) and just got something similar to what I had, though with some layering at the front. Having freshly dyed hair and a new haircut makes you feel like a million dollars, I tell you what. I wish I could afford to get my hair done more often (at $95 for just the cut I have to space haircuts out as much as possible). After that I bought some new tea, one of which was called Black Rose and is to die for. As mum and I were leaving the shopping center I found some of the hottest clothes I have seen in ages. And walked away with a black sequined, hooded jacket. It is amazing and reminded me of what Michael Jackson would wear if ever he went through a ghetto phase. It was $65 rom $130 so I think I did very well indeed! Then mum came back to my place, we watched a movie and went out to my favourite restaurant in China Town for dinner. It was a very good day :)

I am so bored right now it's crazy. I've always been the type to eat when bored so I am struggling right now. Luckily I'm only snacking on seed mix and fat-free soup and some vegetables so I'm not going to have massive eaters guilt tomorrow morning. I may still go to gym though, I have been pretty shit this weekend and after losing a kilo this week, I want to keep being as good as I can.

Anyway I took a few pics of my new hair and jacket. I'm not wearing makeup so just ignore that fact for me XD